Posted November 1, 20168 yr Hello Master, The urn of my father's ashes will be deposited into the niche soon. After more than 10 years. The niche is for 4 urns. Im worried about putting him in a niche for four urns, Like the niche is waiting for 3 more urns. Is it better if we put him in a niche just for one? Also, do we need to put inside? I plan to fillit up with his clothes and other mementos so there's no space. Thank you very much!
November 2, 20168 yr Staff These are some considerations: 1. Once cremated the ashes remains "neutral" or "ashes to ashes". Thus, there is no concern even if urns are stacked 12 storeys high etc... Or placed in a one, two or four person's niche. 2. For eg. there are a few millionaires or past millionaires who were buried at the Gardens of Remembrance at Jurong (Christian) where the family of the deceased bought four niches. 2.1. And they erected a large plague to cover the entire 2 by 2 niches with that huge plague. 3. If your concern is more "under Symbolism" and the notation that it is inauspicious to have 3 more niches "READY" then this has nothing to do with Para 1 to 2.1. 4. Para 3 has more to do with human factors. 4.1. Traditionally, there is a family matriarch to consult with for such matters. And if e.g. the grand mother says okay, then go ahead with it. 4.2. Thus even if one does not have a family matriarch; do get feedback from family members: "Are they okay with this?" If so, then, go ahead with it. 4.3. Since the niche is large; yes, by all means place whatever meaningful items in the niche. 5. In essence, if after everything done; and if one still really feels not "right" then do go ahead and get a single niche. As one should never be made to carry the "burden" of thinking ... more.. as this world is already... stressful for most of us.
November 4, 20168 yr Author Thank you Master for replying as always! You are very helpful. More blessing to you!
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