Dear cecil,
i read somewhere that it is a must for a women to have a baby otherwise she does not get any respect in society? Is it true. Thanks.

Dear Anon,
For the Chinese (local - China) and overseas Chinese, there is the pressure not so much of just having a baby but rather a baby son.
Chinese value highly a baby son because only a son can carry their family name through to the next generation.
For example, Mr Tan would like his surname to be `carried' to his next generation.
Only if he has a son, his surname Tan can be `happy' as his son will also adopt his surname Tan.
If he has a daughter, and if his daughter marrys a man, if the man's surname is Wong, she comes Mrs Wong.
There are many situations where Chinese man were `forced' to take up a second wife or due to family pressure, marry another in the hope that they have a son.
If his wife did not bear him a son, in some instances, it may result in her getting very bad treatment from her in-laws.
In the past, when a Chinese girl marries, she is said to be married to her husband's family.
During Chinese New Year, the second day is the day where the Chinese girl is suppose to return to her maiden home.
Warmest Regards,
Cecil

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On 1/15/00 2:53:16 AM, Anonymous wrote:
Dear cecil,
i read somewhere that it is a
must for a women to have a
baby otherwise she does not
get any respect in society? Is
it true. Thanks.