Dear Cecil
My grandmother has passed away for almost 30 over years and lately I learnt that it is very important for ancestors to be happily buried. My grandmother has a loving relationship with my grandfather, however they did not bury together - one is in Bintan (place of her death) and the another is in Anambas islands (their true home). No wonder many of us, the descendents, suffered from many setbacks in life.
Cecil, what I am trying to find out is, is it too late to move her grave after almost 30 years later, to her real home so to as "unite" with my grandfather?
Appreciate if you could help, Thanks!

Dear Anon,
1. It is my advise that if your family face so much problems and if they are not staying together but separate:
2. It is acceptable to exhume the grave but:
2.1 This has to be done by experienced grave diggers.
I have a very short writeup at
http://www.geomancy.net/fs/exhume.htm
2.2. Usually, once exhumed, it is best to cremate the bones.
2.3. Cremation is considered neutral and will accordingly, will not affect the `decendants'. A place can be found at a crematorium to house the ashes of the dead.
Alternatively, the ashes can be dispersed into the sea. This is done by many cultures and symbollically, your grandmother can be close to your grandfather as the sea connects all lands.
Perhaps, if the decendants are facing lots of difficulties, para 2.3 can be considered and it is not necessary to re-bury your grandmother with your grandfather.
--- This is not Feng Shui ---
3. There are cases where some corpses did not disintegrate and the whole body was still intact. Usually, this is bad for the decendants. I understand that it is worse still are the display glass has been splintered onto the face of the deceased. After 30 years, the body should have turned to ashes.
Warmest Regards,
Cecil

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On 2/20/00 9:56:00 PM, Anonymous wrote:
Dear Cecil
My grandmother has passed away
for almost 30 over years and
lately I learnt that it is
very important for ancestors
to be happily buried. My
grandmother has a loving
relationship with my
grandfather, however they did
not bury together - one is in
Bintan (place of her death)
and the another is in Anambas
islands (their true home). No
wonder many of us, the
descendents, suffered from
many setbacks in life.
Cecil, what I am trying to
find out is, is it too late to
move her grave after almost 30
years later, to her real home
so to as "unite" with my
grandfather?
Appreciate if you could help,
Thanks!