Hi, eversince the birth of my daughter, my relationship with my mother-in-law grow bad. Now, mygirl is 9 month old, I still can't let her take care of my girl. I dreaded when she carry my girl or even step out of our house for a walk. We are staying together. I am my girl's main caregiver. I'm making my husband, her son in bad position. I've wanted to shift house. I wonder if my fengshui is affecting our relaionship.

Thanks!

Dear Anon,

If all things remain constant:-

Either 1: Your daughter's ba zi does not match your mother-in-law.

But I would rather suspect the "jealous" syndrome or there is a better description for this.

In fact, frankly, in my opinion, it is very common for children. For example, often, we hear of one having only one child. And for the child, he/she feels that he/she is the "centre" of his/her family's entire world i.e. in terms of love, affection and "pampering" for some.

But, suddenly, we are expecting another 2nd child. Perhaps, after giving birth, "less" attention or rather the 1st child felt that less attention was spent on him/her etc....

Perhaps, your mother-in-law, could perhaps, feel that more importantly, she no longer takes centerstage in your home and with your new born daughter, maybe she felt jealous.

Therefore, I sincerely believe that this could most likely be the cause of the friction of your mother-in-law with your daughter.

Perhaps, you can discuss with your husband and see how best to "smoothen" the relationship. However, I can understand your situation: it takes two hands to clap.

Most of all, it is not easy to take care of a child at this period, let alone, handle more issues. Try to have strength and most of all take care!

Warmest Regards,

Cecil

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On 5/23/2004 6:40:09 PM, Anonymous wrote:



Hi, eversince the birth of my

daughter, my relationship with

my mother-in-law grow

bad. Now, mygirl

is 9 month old, I still can't

let her take care of my

girl. I dreaded when she

carry my girl or even step out

of our house for a walk.

We are staying together.

I am my girl's main

caregiver. I'm making my

husband, her son in bad

position. I've wanted to

shift house. I wonder if

my fengshui is affecting our

relaionship.



Thanks!