Hi,

My wife and I are in a dilemma whether we can attend our friends wedding which falls 4months before or after our own wedding.From our parents, there isa saying that if we were to attend someting bad will befall both parties? Please enlighten us...

Dear Anon,

Yes, this is a Chinese belief. As it was felt that attending someone else's wedding soon after our own wedding is considered a "clash" and thus inauspicious to do so.

One should wait until at least six-months after one's wedding before attending other people's wedding.

This is part of the "older-Chinese-generation" belief.

Since your parents are fully against both of you attending your friend's wedding, it is best to follow their instructions.

As to whether something bad ... is another matter which according to the "clash" if possible, try to avoid doing so.

Warmest Regards,
Cecil

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On 2/24/2005 9:19:01 PM, Anonymous wrote:

Hi,

My wife and I are in a dilemma

whether we can attend our

friends wedding which falls

4months before or after our

own wedding.From our parents,

there isa saying that if

we were to attend someting bad

will befall both parties?

Please enlighten us...

So it is after our wedding?Not before?If before got any 'clashes'?

Dear Anon,

Yes, it is after your wedding and not before. Thus if one's wedding is 3 months time and if the wedding is tommorrow or in two months time; there is no issue in attending your friend's/relative's wedding.

Warmest Regards,
Cecil

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On 2/25/2005 3:52:37 AM, Anonymous wrote:

So it is after our wedding?Not

before?If before got any

'clashes'?

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On 2/25/2005 3:55:07 AM, Anonymous wrote:

Dear Anon,

Yes, it is after your wedding

and not before. Thus if one's

wedding is 3 months time and

if the wedding is tommorrow or

in two months time; there is

no issue in attending your

friend's/relative's wedding.

Warmest Regards,Cecil

On 2/25/2005 3:52:37 AM, Anonymous

wrote:
So it is after our

wedding?Not
before?If before got

any
'clashes'?

Hi Cecil,

Thank you so much. Is there any myth behind these 'clashes'?Very curious why not before n its after our wedding...???

Any other taboos...that we should take notE? My wife's makeup artist is pregnant...but she will have passed 1 month confinement on our actual day...any...taboos...on that issue???Heard that its better not to ask her to make up for us for our photoshot since she is pregnant....???But my wife likes her make up very much....any comments?

Please help...