Hi,

I would need your advice if it is fine for a family to hold 2 customary Chinese weddings in a year.

Will there be any consequences for the 2nd couple who marry later in the year?

Thank you.

Dear Anon,

Anonymous wrote:
I would need your advice if it is fine for a family to hold 2 customary Chinese weddings in a year.

Anonymous wrote:
Will there be any consequences for the 2nd couple who marry later in the year?

Most Chinese beliefs that it is inauspicious for two marriages to occur in the same year. So most very traditional family will postpone one of the marriages at least 12 months apart. The more modern family will at least want to have 6 months apart before another marriage takes place.

If there is no choice and the wedding has to take place, then the couples should not attend each other wedding to avoid clashing each other's luck. And that it should be at least 6 months apart.

Hope that helps.

Warmest Regards
Robert Lee
GEOMANCY.NET - Center for Applied Feng Shui Research.

Thanks Robert for your advice.

Am in a dilemma. Is it strongly discouraged for the couple who is marrying at a later time of the year to attend the first couple's wedding so as to avoid bad luck?

Dear Anon,

Anonymous wrote:
Am in a dilemma. Is it strongly discouraged for the couple who is marrying at a later time of the year to attend the first couple's wedding so as to avoid bad luck?

If a wedding has to be take place within 6-months to 1 year, then it is best that both couples do not attend each other wedding. This is to avoid either couples from any inauspicious influence.

Hope that helps.

Warmest Regards
Robert Lee
GEOMANCY.NET - Center for Applied Feng Shui Research

I am married this yr;2022 & my sister is married 2020… but both in civil way. Now we want to have a double wedding on 2023 to less the expenses. Is it still counted in the badluck? though its just for formality?

2 hours ago, Tosher said:

I am married this yr;2022 & my sister is married 2020… but both in civil way. Now we want to have a double wedding on 2023 to less the expenses. Is it still counted in the badluck? though its just for formality?

1. To be honest, today, such Chinese customs really no sense to "modern" Chinese at all. 

2. More related to an era where there was a strong Matriarch. She was much like these:

https://www.purewow.com/news/rules-royal-family-must-follow
and 
https://www.marieclaire.com/culture/g4985/strict-rules-the-royal-family-has-to-follow/

and many more.

3. The good news is that today Year 2022, many families are not run by a "MAFIA" type of Granny. Those were the days where daughters-in-laws were frown upon if they are unable to bear a male for the family. Or that the eldest son was treated like a king.

4. Nowadays, most grannys especially in Singapore are some of the kindest and most gentle kind and dot all grand children. Thus they have no issues. Many don't even know of such draconian rules like what are discussing.

5. Furthermore, to pacify, you can treat "I am married this yr;2022 & my sister is married 2020" this here, so as not to feel guilty at that.

6. Today, so long as "Now we want to have a double wedding on 2023" suits you, your partner, your other family member who is intending to get married, their partners, their parents, I personally feel this is justified. 

7. It is frankly time to say "Gone with the Wind" with such draconian rules! Frankly, I am sure, most of us, here will give you and your family MANY BLESSINGS!

Let's not follow them BLINDLY ANY MORE!

With so many trials and tribulations especially the life and death aspects of COVID19,
Heck with this, LAH! Okay?

Agree? KEE CHIU!

Dedicated for All Modern Chinese Grand parents, Parents, Grooms, Brides, Brothers & Sisters.. erh.. EVERYONE!

 

Sir, Is it appropriate to ask our "Dear Education Minister?" Will He agree also?

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Time to scrap the Chinese taboo of not allowing family members to marry within one year of each other?

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